Self love is completely healthy because it provides a healthy level of self esteem. Self esteem is what we believe about ourselves, for example, if we believe we are deserving of love, we will feel loved. Self esteem also helps us believe in our own value and worth as deserving human beings. We all deserve and need love. Healthy levels of self love and self esteem create a loving, caring world in which others are drawn towards us. This is where we connect with like minded individuals so self love heals, nurtures, protects and validates.
Hopefully by now you can see the difference between the unhealthy traits of narcissism which is about obsession, control and a lack of love versus the healthy traits of self love which is essential to us all if we are going to feel welcome in our own world and welcome those who want to share our world with us. https://parentalalienation-pas.com/2015/04/08/a-word-about-self-love/